A friend asked me the following question: Ugh why do pagans get all uptight about love magic?
I knew exactly what she meant, as I have seen witches ranting and raving over the years in person, and online in forums and groups. Witches, Pagans, Wiccans, Druids, Eternalists, et. al. have different rules and beliefs depending on where they studied, who they trained with, what they individually believe, etc. so there are as many answers to the question as there are voices to speak. I am one who believes we are all set on paths for growth and learning once we are born. Some call it fate, destiny, kismet, or by some other name. I simply call it living. Can we change our paths? Of course! Should we change our paths? That must be up to the individual. However, the question of should we change the paths of others? Well, for me, that one is a hard no.
My belief is we each have things to learn, to experience, to grow from during each incarnation and I do not believe they should be missed. We are here to learn and grow as people. We are here to learn from others and to teach others, to share experiences and improve ourselves each time we return.
As such, for love spells, I have a hard line on those as well. Just because we are witches, spell casters, magicians, ones who employ magick to change the world around us, does not mean we have the right to do whatever we please, whenever we pleased.
If a spell is meant to compel love from someone specific who does not feel it, no. If a spell is meant to force an affection to grow deeper, or to prolong it beyond its natural life, then I believe it is best not done. When someone we want to love us does not, when someone we still love is ready to move on, there are lessons for all involved. Of course, they are not necessarily pleasant to experience. Not all lessons are supposed to be enjoyed. Cheating yourself, or someone else, from a lesson by employing magick is a choice you must decide for yourself.
If someone asks your opinion, give it. As far as I am concerned, I remind them that they are cheating themselves and everyone involved if they interfere. Say if Jane does a spell for Joe, she cheats them both out of the correct love experiences that they are supposed to have this incarnation. Then add in the guy, Frank, she is actually supposed to end up with, and the Amy that Joe was supposed to end up with and each of the people they end up with instead of their true intended. Keep magnifying the damage as the ripples echo out exponentially with each inappropriate relationship caused by the spell.
Instead, remind people if they want to do a spell for love, they should one to improve themselves, or to hasten the love that they are supposed to have into their life. Even then, if a wait was supposed to temper them before they meet “the one” for them, they can do more damage than good for themselves and their intended love.
As always, this is MY way of belief, not THE way everyone believes.