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Witches’ Spell: Stay Out of My Life

One of the best things about being a witch is that we do not have to wait for things to happen for us, we take control of situations for ourselves. Many times, we have people in our lives who started out pleasant, whom we enjoyed spending time with but as time wore on, we discovered their hidden issues.

Sometimes, they are “drama mammas’ or “drama papas”, those people for whom everything in life is a drama. They are not happy unless there is something to complain about and bemoan. Even the smallest problem in their world becomes the size of the Hindenburg and flames down around them without the slightest provocation. When there is no drama, they happily create it for themselves and everyone else around them. They have convinced themselves that they cannot live without it.

Other times, there are the “not good enough” people. These expect everyone to do everything for them. They contribute nothing but complaints about everyone and everything around them. Nothing is good enough for them; because they judge everything and everyone (other than themselves) to such exacting standards that no one can meet them. If they do something wrong or something that is not up to their previously expressed exacting standards, then the excuses fall like rain, all around them. If, by some chance their standards are met, then these “not good enough” people fabricate a problem about which they might complain.

Then you have the “poor me” types. These are the ones that no matter what has happened to others, the “poor me” people had or have it worse. Someone in the room had a broken limb, well it is nothing like the broken limb the “poor me” had last year. Having trouble with finances, well your trouble is nowhere near as serious as the trouble the “poor me” is experiencing. Recovering from a car accident, just wait until you hear how the “poor me” narrowly escaped a fatal accident just minutes before.

Finally, you have the “negative Ned” and “negative Nelly” types. These are the ones for whom nothing good ever happens. They cannot remember a time in their lives that was not miserable. They had terrible childhoods. Their parent(s) were abusive or absent. They had no siblings or ones who merely added to their misery. They never dated or currently cannot get a date. They never married, married the wrong person, or married an abuser like their parent. Their children, if they have any, are rude, mean, and/or disrespectful to the “negative Ned” or “negative Nelly”.

We all have our own moments of drama, negativity, and self pity, the point is to keep them short, private,  and to consciously choose to move on to better behavior when we notice we are failing. Just as we strive to improve ourselves, we should help others improve, by not tolerating these types of behaviors in people, set some standards for behavior, both for ourselves, and also for the people we allow into our lives. Life is complex enough and challenging enough that we should not have to tolerate people whose chief purpose in life seems to be causing strife and misery in everyone around them.

Some people are ones you may have to retain in your life. A “drama mamma” boss, a “not good enough” father-in-law, or a “negative Ned” landlord are ones that you may have to learn to deal with for at least a limited time. Judge whom you can cut loose without losing any sleep over the losses and whom you cannot, and the ones that you think it is worth the effort to try to save from themselves, by working with them on their issues. I have never believed the saying that people cannot change. I have seen some people change for the better and some people change for the worse. It all depends on the willingness to change and the effort the person puts into it.

Once you have winnowed out the keepers, decided which ones need removal, to oust the people from your life who are a constant drain on you, start with a Disconnect Bath Spell. I would go so far as to suggest using Waning Moon Water with the spell to ensure you get rid of the ones needing removing. This insures that they not “connected” to you and are easier to remove from your life.

Afterward, you might choose a mass blocking of them from your life through an herbal spell. Take a piece of black cotton linen approximately five inches squared and lay it out on your altar or sacred space. Use a teaspoon each of geranium, black pepper, burdock, and marjoram, write the names of the people you are releasing from your life on small strips of parchment and add them to the pile of herbs. Tie the package up into a bundle with the names and herbs inside using a length of black ribbon. Take it outdoors and burn in a fire outside your home to allow their influence in your life to burn and the smoke of their connection to you blow away on the wind.

Another helpful way of getting rid of the people from your life is to buy or make a jar of Four Thieves Vinegar. Setting this aside for a bit, using the principles of the parchment spells, write the name of the person or persons you want to get rid of on individual pieces of parchment, use the ban symbol of a red circle with a line through it, place these strips in a small jar. When you have all the names collected, count them and add them to a small jar. Add a small pinch of graveyard dirt from someone who protected you during their life for each name, then fill the jar two-thirds full of Four Thieves Vinegar, take it to a fast moving and deep stream or river nearby that flows away from your home and gently toss it into the water. Make certain not to break the jar, because as the jar is carried away from you, the people will be carried away from your life as well. They may physically remain in the same area, but their lives will lose more and more interaction with yours the farther the bottle travels.

Using black salt to get rid of people is helpful, or for particularly egregious offenders that you cannot seem to get rid of any other way, you may choose to work a Go Away Spell to make certain that they are out of your life once and for all.

The point is, that as a witch, you do not have to simply wait for someone who is bringing negativity into your life to go away, you can send them away and make them stay out if you choose to do so.


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Witchery: Remedies for Headaches

Witches lead busy, busy lives in modern times. Gone are the simple days of standing over a bubbling cauldron and stirring in ingredients all day. 😉 Now witches have day jobs, continuing education for the day jobs, some have families and spouses. We may plan our children’s’ education, their after school activities. Many are repurposing household items for personal projects, gardening, planning vacations, working on home improvements, blogging, or even performing automobile maintenance. Some witches are D-I-Y kings or queens and have side projects that link into their family’s welfare or link into their spell work. All sorts of activities are now the “norm” for the everyday witches. However, the norm can also cause a number of health problems.

One we will be addressing today via natural and witchy methods, not via man made drugs. For myself, and several friends and family members, we often have odd reactions to manufactured drugs and have had to find many ways to “work around” the ability of simply “popping a pill” to make things better. We had to find ways that are more natural and healthier. One of the most frequent problems in our personal health seems to be the prevalence of being so busy or so stressed we develop headaches. As such, here are a few of the ideas and fixes that have worked for us over the years on everything from simple allergy headaches, stress and tension headaches to the more complex but fortunately less frequent ocular migraines.

If you feel a headache coming on, or if you know you have a stressful day planned, avoid stimulants. Avoid or at least limit the amount of caffeine that you take in. (The same with nicotine avoid it or drastically cut back on it, at least.) However, you need to watch for withdrawal symptoms as they can also cause headaches. For example, if you are a five-cup a day coffee-drinker, do not stop drinking coffee, cold turkey. Wean yourself from the coffee until you limit it to two cups a day. A certain amount of coffee per day is good for you. Researchers link coffee to delaying Alzheimer’s, improving brain function and memory and protecting against Type 2 Diabetes.

Once a headache begins, I am a strong proponent of using amethyst to relieve headaches. Laying a smooth amethyst or better yet, the flat side of an amethyst quartz against the exact spot on the head where the pain is for a minute or two will draw the headache out of the head and into the stone. I have no idea why it works so well, but after two decades of handing out amethyst to believers and skeptics of alternative medicine alike and seeing the same success, I swear by it for headaches relating to stress, tension, basic allergy headaches, etc.

Also, using lavender water on a warm cloth and laying it over the closed eyes of someone suffering from headaches and even migraines, or rubbing a drop of lavender essential oil onto temples of migraine sufferers and allowing them to lie still in a cool, dark room and drift off to sleep has worked very well in the past.

accupressure point for headachesAcupressure can erase a headache as you firmly massage the spot between the thumb and index finger (as shown on the picture) and focus on dissolving the pain as you massage. You may also turn to a licensed, trained acupuncturist for treatment if the headaches recur often, as there may be a specific reason for them.

If you have a stress or tension headache, massaging your temples, the center of the bridge of your nose, or even your entire scalp during headaches can cause them to disappear as it focuses blood flow to the area and causes the body to begin the natural healing process.

For tension and stress headaches, practice a combination of slow and easy stretching and deep breathing as you visualize yourself inside a peaceful setting of your choice, deep within a quiet forest surrounded by lush green plants that leech and absorb the pain from your body. You may try visualizing yourself lying in a field surrounded by wildflowers as a soft breeze makes them dance about you and wafts the pain from you, or sitting beside a softly babbling brook as you dangle your feet in the water, feeling the headache sinking toward your feet and feel it as the water washes your pain away.

Drinking a full eight to ten ounces of water can erase many headaches, as a great number of people simply are dehydrated from their busy lifestyles and forgetting to stay hydrated properly as they rush through their busy days.

If water does not help, try drinking a cup of warm peppermint tea at the onset of a headache and/or breathing in peppermint oil, as it reduces the pain and removes headaches from many people. Try drinking ginger tea, or chewing on a fresh slice of ginger root as they can also help to reduce the pain of headaches, as well.

For those who suffer ocular migraines, as I do, as soon as the migraine begins (while it is still painless and is only affecting the visual field) I have found that a cold can of soda or a similarly sized jar from the fridge is the perfect size to fit into the eye socket and against the eyeball. Applying gentle pressure, using an on for a couple of minutes and off for a minute, then repeating action to keep the eye cold but not cause damage to sensitive eye tissue. Keep this up until the visual field returns to normal and it can prevent the migraine from advancing to the point of pain. However, if you wait until the visual field has degraded to the point that the pain begins, they you may need to find another way to relieve the symptoms. I know for myself, applying cold after the pain sets in only deepens the pain.

There are many ways to fight headaches and these are just a few of the ways that I have used, or that others I know have used, with success. If you know of any others, please feel free to share them! As far as I am concerned, a witch can never have too many ways to try to get rid of a headache!

Random Thoughts for the Day

Everyone who has ever known me throughout my life knows that the first and longest lived of my two life mantras is “This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man”. Or more simply put…

This above all to thine ownself be true